One year down!
I just celebrated my one year anniversary with my amazing wife, Meaghan. It’s kind of hard to believe it’s been a year already and over the last couple of weeks, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about that weekend in July 2014.
This time last year, we were in Ireland on our honeymoon. The memories of our wedding weekend were still fresh in our minds as we explored a whole new country. It was the culmination a year-long process of planning and our wedding day came and went as quickly as everyone will tell you it does. Looking back at what I learned going through the whole process a year ago, I want to share a bit of advice to those currently in the wedding planning stages.
Things may go wrong, but it’s your responsibility to adapt and roll with the punches.
My grandmother fell and broke her hip hours before our wedding. My Grandma, who lives in Georgia, was my only grandparent able to make the trip to Connecticut, where our wedding was. Needless to say, it was very important to me that she was there.
I was there when she fell and when she was rolled out in a wheelchair, but everyone still tried to keep it a secret and not ruin the day. Despite everyone’s good intentions, I was fully aware of the situation and moments before walking out for the ceremony, it hit me like a boulder that my Grandma wasn’t there. I had to take a moment to compose myself and retreated to a back room in tears. Anyone not up to speed may have thought I had cold feet.
I took that moment to myself and realized that the day would go on. Grandma wouldn’t have had it any other way, and I knew that. I walked out to the ceremony site with my closest friends and watched Meaghan come down the aisle before we said our vows. The rest of the day was one of the most unbelievable days of my life and we had plenty of stories to tell Grandma the next day when we saw her in the hospital.
There were other minor hiccups came and went as the day progressed. The person we had lined up to introduce the wedding party, a family friend, had to miss the wedding because of an ankle injury. With everything else going on, it dawned on us about five minutes before we were to be announced that he wasn’t there. The matron of honor’s husband quickly took up the task and after jotting down everyone’s name on a napkin did an amazing job.
We had a small wedding cake that Meaghan and I cut while cupcakes where handed out to everyone else. Unfortunately, our cute little cake had an untimely meeting with the ground later in the evening when we tried to move it. No big deal.
We had a few bumps in the road, but trust me, it would take a million more words to describe all the amazing things that happened that day. Here are a few of the amazing things that happened at our wedding wonderfully captured by Chip Litherland of Eleven Weddings.
I got married to a woman I love and respect!
Our family and friends were there to celebrate with us! We had people from 19 different states with us!
Our dearest friends made the most incredible toasts! (Seriously watch the video here)
See more of our amazing photos here.
Take time to enjoy your day, it does fly by. If you have a minute by minute schedule, make sure there is extra time for everything on it. You don’t want to constantly be looking at the clock. The day is about you, your new spouse and bringing your two families together. Be present in the moment. If you have planned properly and have professionals taking care of the important things, the day will go smoothly.
It’s easy to get caught up in the little details and try to make sure everything is perfect. Don’t worry, it will be as close to perfect as possible, if you let it. Things will go wrong. Some of the things you lost sleep over in the weeks leading up will not work out. Once you start stressing over small things, it will snowball and you may wake up the next day with a bad memory of this milestone in life.
Finally, hire and trust the right people. Putting on a wedding is serious business.